When we first met in one of the best Singapore hawker centers in 1978 I don’t think either of us had an inkling of what lay in store for us and our future together. Like any youthful souls, we had idealistic hopes and dreams. Of course, our main goal after being engaged was getting married, starting a family and finishing college.
Little did we know in July 1979, as we were bound together in loving matrimony, that we would have a future filled with the wonder of travel. For me, by the time I was 22 and married, I had already lived in five states and six cities. I had traveled to Canada twice on band trips. Julianne, on the other hand, had grown up and lived in Mesa, Arizona all of her life. The majority of her travels had been to Utah for family gatherings and to California to stay with her oldest sister Kathy. She did make a cross country trip in 1978 with the BYU Orchestra, which also went into Toronto and on to Washington, D.C.
Our first road trip together, during our honeymoon, was to Monument Valley in southern Utah in 1979.
After vacillating to determine my college direction, I ultimately settled on a dual major in Asian History and Geography at Northern Arizona University. I probably followed my heart more than my brain. My original plan was to become an attorney, but various things along the way led me to choose a different path. Admittedly, my sweet wife was not happy with my change in direction, but, thankfully stuck with me all these years, even though the “what ifs” have often crept into both of our minds at times.
We later visited Monument Valley with the family in 1993
Family visiting Abraham Lincoln home in Springfield, IL in the late 1990s
As I look back today, I honestly believe that following the path we chose has enabled us to have a life rich in experiences. We have never had the riches that many lawyers enjoy, but I think we provided our children opportunities and memories that few American children, especially those born in the 1980s, ever got to experience.
By 1987, we had the opportunity to live and work in Japan. Our children went to Japanese public schools, got to be in numerous TV commercials, were in local TV shows, learned a new language and culture and all that came with that. They were enlightened with a mindset of diversity and global thinking. And I am grateful for that.
The family in Oita Prefecture in Japan in 1989, visiting with Governor Morihiko Hiramatsu, who I worked for.
The family visiting the Usa Shrine, one of Japan’s famous Shinto Shrines.
My Dad visited us in Japan in 1991 and we went to Kyoto, where we visited the Kinkaku-ji (The Gold Pavilion)
Julianne and David, visiting the old Tulum ruins in Mexico as part of a cruise.
At the age of 20, I don’t think Julianne would have believed anyone if she were told she would live in Japan for four and a half years and have the opportunity to visit places in Canada and Mexico while also traveling to most of the 50 United States, including Hawaii and Alaska. But, that we did. We enjoyed many opportunities to travel together and continue to do so to this day.
Japan was quite the culture shock for Julianne initially. The weather was different, the people were different, the language was strange and many of the foods she was offered were a bit more than unique. But, like our children, she learned to love the land and the culture, became engaged and conversant in Japanese and really found great pleasure in the variety of unique dishes in Japanese cuisine, as well as the Japanese take on other ethnic foods. To this day, all of us enjoy the variety of foods from all over the world.
Julianne enjoys some real ramen with Marissa and Chelsea at a small Mom and Pop ramen shop in Japan in June 1988
We still enjoy good food. Here we visited Koreana, a local Korean restaurant with my cousin Lew and his daughter.
Visiting the Mystic Pizza shop in Mystic, Connecticut
Over the past 15 years or so, we have traveled all over the United States. At one time, we had Amaree living in Montana and then they moved to Port Orchard, Washington. Seth got his first job out of college and lived just north of Cincinnati, but job changes eventually took him and his family to Connecticut and later to Houston. This meant opportunities to travel for visits. These became long trips that afforded us the opportunity to see many new places.
Then, in 2017, we had a giant family reunion that began in Kentucky and eventually took most of us as far east as central New York.
Watching the grandkids on the beach at Old Orchard Beach in Maine.
Visiting the Field Museum in Chicago with family
Julianne and I at the Corn Palace in Mitchell, South Dakota
Travel in Virginia
Visiting the Washington Monument in Washington D.C.
We were able to check out glaciers in Glacier Bay National Park in Alaska
With family in West Virginia
Julianne on a canoe trip with Chelsea and her family on the Little Miami River in Ohio
On a visit to Washington, we got to see Mt. Rainier National Park
Chelsea and Julianne at Letchworth State Park in Castille, New York
Visiting Antique Archaeology, famous for the TV show American Pickers in Le Claire, Iowa
Julianne having fun on the beach with grandchildren in Hilton Head, South Carolina
Enjoying the grandeur of Glacier National Park in Montana
Visiting Pittsburgh on a recent trip to visit her sister
Travel runs in our veins. Julianne may not like the long road trips that I enjoy (as do many of my children and grandchildren), but she still loves to travel. Annually she has a sibling trip to San Diego where she spends her time in a family time share on the Pacific coast. And now that her sister Laura is closer, we make occasional trips to Pennsylvania or meet Laura and her family in Ohio or West Virginia.
I am grateful that we have had so many adventures and memories. I hope for even more to come.
Enjoying the beach in San Diego with her sisters Maren, Kathy and Laura
Do you like travel? Are you aware that I currently have two books about offbeat and quirky places? You can use these to take on your road trips. You can see both of my books at http://amzn.to/2ks6fQZ. Working on Book 3, coming in late Spring 2019!!
By the time I was ready to depart on the solo part of my journey, at the age of 17, I had already determined a few things regarding my future. Having grown up with a good deal of dysfunction and unhappiness in my own adoptive family, I had determined that if I ever had a family of my own, that kind of dysfunction and heartache would not happen on my watch. I am not saying that everything in my family was bad, but there were many things that just weren’t right and I wanted to make sure I fixed these things for my own offspring, if I was ever blessed to have one.
Now, at age 62, I am thankful to say that, overall, we have had a loving family and I believe that most of my resolutions in terms of family pretty much came true. My children have not had to experience a divorce between their parents. My children were loved and nurtured and had a fairly stable family. Unlike my situation where my parents never came to any of my school activities (other than my high school graduation and later my college graduation), my wife and I strived to attend as many activities of our children as we could possibly do. To be sure, there were times where three different functions occurred simultaneously, and thus one of the children had to miss out on parents being there. But, but if we could be there, we were.
Julianne and I were blessed with five wonderful children throughout the first years of our marriage. Soon all of our children will be over the age of 30 and it is hard to believe that we have children approaching the age of 40. I really don’t feel that old.
I am grateful that my children have had so many wonderful life experiences prior to their departures on their own separate life journeys. I’m grateful that for at least 17 or 18 years of their lives they were able to join Julianne and I on our journey as we lived in Japan, lived in different parts of the country, and had many opportunities provided for us to travel, participate in many activities and do many things that most families never really get to do.
We have never had a “rich” life in terms of money, and that has been perfectly okay. We’ve never been dirt poor either. We have always been blessed to have what we needed and sometimes even a little bit more. Our children never did without the necessities of life and for that I am deeply grateful. My children never had to have their heads shaved like my mom used to do. She gave us our haircuts and I didn’t like it. If our children desired that kind of haircut, then it was fine even though I still did not like how they looked. Fortunately, I believe that we were very good about allowing our children to make guided choices during their youth.
Thanks to the amazing talents of my wife in so many areas, our children grew up to have many talents themselves. They were all musical. Most of them have been creative in one way, shape or form, whether it be graphic arts or some other form of creativity.
Four of my children have found wonderful spouses whom they love and who love them in return. Those “in-law” kids are definitely an important part of our family. These children have also brought forth their own children, our grandchildren. By the time I was 60, I already had 10 grandchildren. When I left home at age 17, the thought of grandchildren barely crossed my mind. It was all I could think of to just have a wife and my own small family someday. And, I was certainly blessed with abundance. As it says in Proverbs, “children are like arrows… happy is the man that has his quiver full of them.” And I most certainly have a quiver full and I am definitely happy.
I am grateful for the love my children have for their parents and I am grateful thankful for the togetherness that each of them shares with one another. Like any siblings, they have had their differences. But, when we have family gatherings, there is togetherness. For us, “the family that stays together, STAYS together.” When we have issues, the children are there to discuss them and share them. They call each other, they share time with each other, they carry on family traditions such as calling and singing happy birthday. It is a joy to this old man to see the evolution of my five children and ultimately my 10 sweet grandchildren.
And what can I say about my grandchildren.? They all bring me so much happiness and joy. I am glad that I don’t have to raise them every day, so I get them most of the time when they are in a good mood. But it is a joy to spend time with these amazing children. I have been blessed to be able to spend some quality time with many of them. I’ve been able to share the adventures of traveling on the back roads with most of them. My children and grandchildren will all learn diversity. They will all know the wonders of this world. Hopefully they will appreciate and enjoy those times spent with Julianne and me.
Don’t get me wrong. Raising our children has not been an easy task either. Each of them has brought challenges to my wife and myself. Each of my children has made decisions that we did not necessarily agree with. But as we grow older, we learned to support our children and their decisions and to love them unconditionally, as best as we were able. And that love has been reciprocated back in abundance. I am deeply grateful for that.
And now, 45 years after I had left my own home and set forth on my personal journey and traveled these many years on this journey with my family, I feel “rich“ in the abundance of family. I feel rich in joy and experiences. I have had a rich life because of my children and my grandchildren and this will be something I will be able to always have with me.
Bottom line… My life has been wonderfully blessed and that is why I am “awesome, but getting better” everyday.