Crossing Paths – A Julianne Story

Julianne as a toddler

I was a three-year-old boy in Albuquerque New Mexico when she was born in Mesa, Arizona. By the time she was five, I was on my way to Dallas, Texas with my family. By the time she was ten, I was learning the ropes as a junior high student in the Denver area. As she grew to the age of 15 and had begun her high school years, I had already traveled to Bozeman, Great Falls and was a senior in high school in Murray, Utah. By this time, she had become a very talented violinist. I had learned the saxophone.

She grew up in the same home most of her life with her loving family and her many friends throughout her elementary, junior high and high school days. I had moved often and always had to find new friends new places.

Julianne as a young girl (look at those curls)

The Bateman family early on.  Julianne on the left.

Julianne at Church Camp with friends (I think she is the one in front)

She was born in raised into her church, the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Not me. Through all of these years I went from being born Catholic, being raised a Jewish boy for the first few years, then attending Jehovah’s Witness Kingdom Halls, and ultimately finding my way into the same church as her

As she was studying hard in high school, I had made my way to Japan to serve as a missionary for the Church.

Bateman Siblings

By the time I returned home, she had graduated high school and made her way to Brigham Young University. I had returned from Japan and also made my way to Brigham Young University. We both had hopes and dreams.

It was not until the fall of 1978, about 40 years ago, that our paths finally crossed. It’s really funny how things happen like this.

My old 1963 yucky green Volkswagen bug had died on me as I prepare to head to work as shoe salesman at JC Penney in Orem, Utah. I made my way to a bus stop so that I could get to work. I needed my job. That day, she also made her way to the bus stop to go to work. She too worked at JCPenney, in the little café, as a waitress. Even then, while working at the same place, our paths never crossed until this auspicious day in the fall of 1978. Having never ridden the bus to work, I did not know what the bus schedule was, but found that as I arrived at the bus stop, I missed the bus. She arrived just a couple minutes later only to find out for me, that she too had missed the bus. But, as fate would have it, I was enamored by this pretty young lady with long flowing brown hair and a gleaming smile who I just miss this bus with me. 

Our first photo together ca. 1978

She was friendly, and called one of her roommates to come pick us up to take us to work. I was grateful for that. But, I was also in love. Instantaneously in love. I knew at the moment we met at the bus stop, she was the one.  But I was shy, yes, an outgoing person, but shy in terms of the opposite sex. She too was somewhat shy, but friendly.  Interestingly enough, we did not introduce ourselves as this was just a chance meeting where our paths have crossed and she was being helpful to get me to the same location she had to go to anyway.

My interest was piqued as I knew she worked in the same place. Soon I was visiting the little café on a daily basis to order cherry cheesecake. My real reason was to observe this fine young lady whose name I still did not know.

Julianne ca. 1978

Then, one day I went in and she was gone. She had left to return home to Arizona. My glimmer of hope had disappeared. And I still did not know her name!

I spent the holiday in Utah wondering about her and if she would return and if I would ever see her again. I made my way down to Jemez Springs, New Mexico to celebrate Christmas with the remnants of my family. Divorce had happened. Challenges happened for my siblings. But, for once, we did get all together to celebrate the one day.

But this story is about Julianne…not me.

I returned to Provo late in December and continued my job. She was not there. She never did return to JCPenney.

School began again and it was back to search mode for me as I strived to find my soulmate. And then it happened! In the midst of the very crowded student center at BYU, I heard a “Hey you!“ called out. I looked. It was her! She had returned and our paths crossed again!! At that point, she did not know my name and I did not know hers. But I made sure this time that would not happen again. I gave her my name, I got her name and her phone number and the rest is history.

Marriage Photo….one of the happiest days of my life

Over the years, this birthday girl who is born when I was three just a few hundred miles away from me, became my wife and the mother of our five children. It was not easy. I took many hours of school and worked. She was left home alone almost all the time to raise these young children. I helped when I could, but she took the biggest load on her shoulders and that continued for many years.

Julianne and me with our first three…all girls..(L to R) Amaree, Chelsea and Marissa.  Julianne made the dresses

Julianne Bateman was now my wife and was an exceptional mother to our children. Unlike many married couples, we had our times of separation for long periods of time. These were job related and not relationship related. 

Family in Japan in late 1980s

I can safely say that my schooling and work was a form of separation, but at least I tried to be home most evenings to spend time with her. She was the love of my life. And I adored our children.

Family Fun

Now together, we eventually made our way to Flagstaff where our first three children were born and I struggled through school and jobs. After graduation, we moved down to “the valley” to attend school in Tempe at Arizona State University where I would seek my masters degree. Once again, I was almost always gone while she stayed home and took care of the children.

Family in Japan in 1987.  We lived in this building.

Our first real extended separation happened in 1987 when I had an opportunity to go to Japan to work. I left in July and left her alone for nearly a month with our children. At this time we had four children and she was pregnant with her fifth and, bless her heart, she had to fly to Japan alone with those children. She flew via soul Korea and their flight was late and she missed the flight to Nagoya and Fukuoka. She was stuck in a foreign country, pregnant with four little children. Ultimately, the next day she did make her way into Japan and I was able to meet her and we had a joyous reunion.

The family in Japan

But, Julianne did not speak the language and I was always gone to work. Once again, she was left alone most of the time to deal with the challenges of life in a foreign country where she did not understand language, the customs or even the ways to purchase food. But she was strong, and she learned and she excelled.

Taking care of children in Japan. She is with Seth and Marissa here.

She had to have her fifth child in a foreign country. She had to deal with a child who got severely burned and had to go spend a few days in a Japanese hospital. She had to manage all of these things on her own predominately due to my work.

We finally made it back to the United States in 1991. It was a challenging time for us as finding potential employment was difficult. After nine months of searching, I finally found a temporary job in Kentucky and once again, I had to leave her alone with five children. But this time, it was for eight months. This was before the days of cell phones, or FaceTime. Our only form of communication was a regular telephone, once a day. But she courageously struggled through that time while I worked far away to provide for our family. During that eight months, I only returned home once, during the holidays, for three or four days and then had to return to Kentucky.

The family visiting Mesa, AZ

Finally, in 1992 we were all able to be together again in Kentucky. But it was not the last time that separation would happen. Jobs came and went, and I eventually worked for eight months living Woodstock, Ontario. Once again, I left her alone to take care of things. By this time three of our children were already married and we had grandchildren. Only one of our children remained at home. She too had a job.

The years after our children left, the empty nest years, I have finally been able to see this sweet lady who has stuck with me for all these years blossom and become her self. For all these many years, she has sacrificed to take care of children, often times alone for long periods of time.

Our family in Lexington, KY around 1995 or 1996

Julianne, who celebrates her birthday this day, is strong and determined. For those many years raising children and being alone or having to get through all of the things that have to be done as a mother, she never got to be herself like she wanted.

Always happy

The whole family in prime form – July 2017 — includes all ten grandchildren and 4 spouses

I am proud of her and am thrilled to see her finally have the opportunity, like a century plant, to finally get her day blossoming. Becoming the beautiful and strong person that she now is and having to have withheld that for all of these years, Has probably been very difficult for her.

Julianne with our five children on my 60th birthday

Julianne and sisters November 2018 – (L-R – Maren, Kathy, Laura, Julianne)

Through all of this, from the day where our paths crossed 40 years ago, there are times where I worry that our paths are separating again. Not because of hate, or desire to separate, but because she has finally had the opportunity to be independent and blossom on her own and find her self. We are a new stage where we must find that sweet spot in our paths that helps us have that crossing again.

Julianne at her birthday celebration in Nov. 2018. (Look at those curls again!)

This person is the love of my life. I am so grateful for her. So honored that she would have me stick with me and sacrifice all these years for the benefit of our children. She is a fun-loving joyous soul who has blessed my life beyond description. I can only pray and hope for more joyous years together with my sweet Julianne who celebrates her birthday this day.  I am so glad our paths crossed all those years ago.

Julianne and David – Nov 4, 2018

Loving Nature – Nature as seen through the camera lens




A Canadian Goose lands in the lake

A Canadian Goose lands in the lake (Lexington, KY)

As I have traveled the country and even remained at home, I have fallen in love with nature and the glorious creations of God.  Despite my penchant for visiting quirky and offbeat roadside attractions, it is the wonders of nature that enthrall me on the road and even in my own home town.

A bee doing its job with the lilacs in my back yard

A bee doing its job with the lilacs in my back yard

Back in February I wrote a post about my favorite Animal Photos, but nature is not just about animals and birds and insects.  It is also about sunrises, sunsets, trees, clouds, flowers and more.  Nature gives me a better challenge to learn photography and manage my skills.

Autumn Colors on a horse farm near Lexington, KY

Autumn Colors on a horse farm near Lexington, KY

Living in Lexington, Kentucky offers me the opportunity to enjoy four real seasons…flowers in the spring, fall colors, nice summers and the occasional snows and ice of the winter.  Everyday can provide a wondrous surprise.

Windblown icicles on a lamp in Lexington

Windblown icicles on a lamp in Lexington

Following are a few photos that provide a taste of nature’s glory as I have seen it through the lens of my camera.

MOUNTAINS

The Sawtooth Mountains as viewed from Stanley, Idaho

The Sawtooth Mountains as viewed from Stanley, Idaho

I love the mountains and perhaps one of the most breathtaking views I have ever had was taken in Stanley, Idaho on a beautiful spring afternoon.  The Sawtooth Range and its jagged peaks epitomize the beauty of the Rocky Mountains to me.

Grand Tetons as seen from Driggs, Idaho

Grand Tetons as seen from Driggs, Idaho

Mountains of Glacier National Park as seen from near Babb, Montana

Mountains of Glacier National Park as seen from near Babb, Montana

SWAMPS

Cyprus in Caddo Lake as seen from Uncertain, Texas

Cyprus in Caddo Lake as seen from Uncertain, Texas

Caddo Lake is the only remaining all natural lake in the state of Texas and it is also a swamp.  I had an early morning visit there one February and really enjoyed the almost spooky serenity of the swamp and the moss hanging from the trees.

Caddo Lake in the morning

Caddo Lake in the morning

I learned to play with the camera a bit and with some color adjusting, I was able to make the above view of cyprus in Caddo Lake a bit more colorful.

FLOWERS AND TREES

Texas Bluebonnets mingle with Indian Paintbrushes near Cool, Texas

Texas Bluebonnets mingle with Indian Paintbrushes near Cool, Texas

I love the amazing variety of colorful flowers that can be seen on the road.  Driving from Weatherford, Texas to Mineral Wells, Texas in the spring, one can experience miles of flowers as seen above. A lovely experience!

A Row of Trees on farmland near Tripp, South Dakota

A Row of Trees on farmland near Tripp, South Dakota

I love old trees.  They provide protection, shade and beauty…even when leafless. One of my favorite tree photos comes from Missouri on a lonely back road.

Tree in Fog taken on a back road in Missouri

Tree in Fog taken on a back road in Missouri

Trees are not the only plants out there though.  I have discovered some awesome flower fields that are practically breathtaking, such as the tulip field and sunflower fields shown below.

Sunflowers near Seymour, Wisconsin

Sunflowers near Seymour, Wisconsin

A tulip field on a back road near Woodstock, Ontario

A tulip field on a back road near Woodstock, Ontario

And single flowers look nice as well, especially with bees on them!

Ox-Eye Daisy from McKee, KY

Ox-Eye Daisy from McKee, KY

Bee in Flower taken in my back yard

Bee in Flower taken in my back yard

I am also amazed at the delicate beauty of small flowers such as these below

Buckwheat flowers at Craters of the Moon.  The blossoms are about the size of a US dime

Buckwheat flowers at Craters of the Moon. The blossoms are about the size of a US dime

Dogtooth Trillium was taken in Oxford County, Ontario

Dogtooth Trillium was taken in Oxford County, Ontario

This asterisk was shot on Buckhorn Island, NY

This asterisk was shot on Buckhorn Island, NY

Yellow flower shot at Craters of the Moon National Monument in Idaho

Yellow flower shot at Craters of the Moon National Monument in Idaho

The desert offers an amazing variety of plant life as well.  I grew up around the desert never really appreciating the beauty that I now enjoy in later life.  Here are a few desert photos.

This agave, also known as a "Century Plant" was shot near Sedona, Arizona in 1983

This agave, also known as a “Century Plant” was shot near Sedona, Arizona in 1983

I took this cactus blossom at San Xavier del Bac in Tucson

I took this Christmas cactus blossom at San Xavier del Bac in Tucson

This barrel cactus in bloom was also taken in Tucson, AZ

This barrel cactus in bloom was also taken in Tucson, AZ

I really love the yucca against the white sand hills of White Sands National Monument

I really love the yucca against the white sand hills of White Sands National Monument

THE SKIES

Way above the plant life and animal life are the skies…the moon, the sun, the clouds.  These too offer some life enhancing views.

I got this moon shot on March 19 late in the evening.  This was its color.  It was awe inspiring.  Taken in Lexington, KY

I got this moon shot on March 19 late in the evening. This was its color. It was awe inspiring. Taken in Lexington, KY

I also took this on March 19 in the morning.  It is the sun behind the clouds using the blue tinted glass from inside my car.  Taken in Lexingt

I also took this on March 19 in the morning. It is the sun behind the clouds using the blue tinted glass from inside my car. Taken in Lexington, KY

This is a shot of the moon in the morning after the sun came up in Lexington

This is a shot of the moon in the morning after the sun came up in Lexington

The sun rises in Lexington with a wondrous glow

The sun rises in Lexington with a wondrous glow

And the clouds provide more fun viewing on their own.  Here are a few shots taken while I drove around town in Lexington…

Wispy clouds on a winter morning, taken in February 2014

Wispy clouds on a winter morning, taken in February 2014

Cloud furrows?  I saw these clouds one morning while filling up with gas.

Cloud furrows? I saw these clouds one morning while filling up with gas.

I am still amazed at the formation.  I wonder how these clouds could have formed these furrows so evenly.

Orange clouds of sunset over Lexington in January 2014

Orange clouds of sunset over Lexington in January 2014

X Marks the Spot.  Airline chemtrails sometimes criss-cross in the sky.

X Marks the Spot. Airline chemtrails sometimes criss-cross in the sky.

This was one of many X photos in the sky that I have taken, but certainly one of the most defined.

Watercolor skies over Lexington

Watercolor skies over Lexington

I love the “Watercolor Skies” that sunrises and sunsets bring

The moon glows at dusk over Lexington

The moon glows at dusk over Lexington

Morning sun shaded by clouds caught on a morning drive in Lexington

Morning sun shaded by clouds caught on a morning drive in Lexington

THE FOUR SEASONS

The seasons offer a plethora of natural scenes, each with its own kind of beauty….

Winter

Ice encapsulates berry covered branches

Ice encapsulates berry covered branches

Jacobson Lake in Lexington, KY is iced over

Jacobson Lake in Lexington, KY is iced over

Geese head south for the winter

Geese head south for the winter

Icicles decorate a plank fence in horse country

Icicles decorate a plank fence in horse country

A male cardinal perches on ice covered branches

A male cardinal perches on ice covered branches

Spring

As winter leaves, the flowers of spring cover the ground and the trees

Dogwoods and Magnolias in full bloom in Charleston, Missouri

Dogwoods and Magnolias in full bloom in Charleston, Missouri

Redbud in bloom in Kentucky

Redbud in bloom in Kentucky

Trillium only bloom for two weeks.  This is Ontario's Provincial Flower - taken in Sparta, Ontario

Trillium only bloom for two weeks. This is Ontario’s Provincial Flower – taken in Sparta, Ontario

Cherry Blossoms at Lexington Cemetery in Spring

Cherry Blossoms at Lexington Cemetery in Spring

A brightly colored lily found in Woodford County, Kentucky

A brightly colored lily found in Woodford County, Kentucky

Beautiful blossom captured at a park in Seattle, Washington

Beautiful blossom captured at a park in Seattle, Washington

Summer

Summer brings the heat and humidity in Kentucky, but also the amazing shades of green and evening shadows

Blue Heron calls out on a summer day

A Blue Heron calls out on a summer day

Corn Rows can be seen all over the Midwest as summer nears its end

Corn Rows can be seen all over the Midwest as summer nears its end

Birds convene at Jacobson Park in Lexington for the hope of a free bite of bread

Birds convene at Jacobson Park in Lexington for the hope of a free bite of bread

An old tree stands tall on a summer day

An old tree stands tall on a summer day

Afternoon shadows on a late summer day

Afternoon shadows on a late summer day

Geese take flight in Kentucky

Geese take flight in Kentucky

Graceful blue heron in flight over the water

Graceful blue heron in flight over the water

I love Blue Herons!  They are probably my favorite bird…so graceful and majestic

Fall

When fall comes along the beautiful darker oranges, browns and yellows emerge.  Like springtime, Kentucky has beautiful fall colors

So many different shades of orange and red in the fallen leaves

So many different shades of orange and red in the fallen leaves

Horse farm country in the fall

Horse farm country in the fall

Fall Colors in Lexington, KY

Fall Colors in Lexington, KY

What is Autumn without the pumpkins?

What is Autumn without the pumpkins?

More Colors of leaves

More Colors of leaves

A Few More Favorites

Squirrel Prints in the Snow

Squirrel Prints in the Snow

Yellowstone Falls

Yellowstone Falls

Ducks float on the lake at sunrise

Ducks float on the lake at sunrise

A squirrel hangs on a tree

A squirrel hangs on a tree

Nature is awe inspiring.  I feel so blessed to experience it all!!