27 to 40: The Amazing Mother

(Author Note:  Due to an extended road trip, busy work schedule and more, I have missed out on two weeks of posting.  Sadly, I will not be able to add those in, but hope to continue on from Day 27 to Day 1…the last remaining days before our 40th Anniversary on July 15).

Julianne always wanted to be a mother.  From our very first discussion about the possibility of marriage, she would always relish the thought of being a mother.  And, what a wonderful mother she was (and still is!). We had our first three children in our first four years of marriage.  We had all five before our 10th anniversary. Today all five of our children are in their 30s and are well engaged in their lives.  Much of their success in life can be directly attributed to their sweet and wonderful mother.

Julianne and David with first daughter Amaree on a winter hike near the San Francisco Peaks, Flagstaff, AZ 1980

Julianne with Amaree and Marissa in 1981

Mothering was Julianne’s passion (until she became a grandmother….).  It wasn’t always easy for her. Due to my school and work, she had to carry much of the load herself.  But, she was an absolute trooper and loved and took care of her children with passion and fervor.

Taking care of children in Japan. She is with Seth and Marissa here.

By the time we had three daughters, Julianne was making matching dresses for Easter, doing girl things with them, teaching them music, making them feel loved.

Julianne and me with our first three…all girls..(L to R) Amaree, Chelsea and Marissa

Eventually, the boys came along, presenting new challenges, but Julianne took those with gusto.  Much of Seth’s early life was in Japan and Solomon was actually born there. So, Julianne learned to shuffle her schedule (she taught English, took kids for TV Commercial filmings, etc.) to make everything work.  Despite the many frustrations of living in a foreign country with language and cultural obstacles, Julianne pulled things off like a pro!

Kravetz Family ca. 1991, taken in Oita, Japan

My Wonderful Family – 1993 – visiting Monument Valley

Family 2009

As our children grew through their teen years and married (all three daughters were married within 6 weeks of each other in 2005!), Julianne has evolved from a mother to an adult friend with her children, especially her daughters.

Julianne with our five children on my 60th birthday in 2016

I am massively blessed to have had the opportunity to marry such a wonderful woman who so cherished her role as a mother and wife and now loves being a grandmother.  All of our children are talented and leaders in their various life activities. They can thank their mother for this!

 

45 to 40: The Traveler

When we first met in Provo in 1978 I don’t think either of us had an inkling of what lay in store for us and our future together. Like any youthful souls, we had idealistic hopes and dreams. Of course, our main goal after being engaged was getting married, starting a family and finishing college.

Little did we know in July 1979, as we were bound together in loving matrimony, that we would have a future filled with the wonder of travel. For me, by the time I was 22 and married, I had already lived in five states and six cities. I had traveled to Canada twice on band trips.  Julianne, on the other hand, had grown up and lived in Mesa, Arizona all of her life. The majority of her travels had been to Utah for family gatherings and to California to stay with her oldest sister Kathy.  She did make a cross country trip in 1978 with the BYU Orchestra, which also went into Toronto and on to Washington, D.C.

Our first road trip together, during our honeymoon, was to Monument Valley in southern Utah in 1979.

After vacillating to determine my  college direction, I ultimately settled on a dual major in Asian History and Geography at Northern Arizona University. I probably followed my heart more than my brain. My original plan was to become an attorney, but various things along the way led me to choose a different path. Admittedly, my sweet wife was not happy with my change in direction, but, thankfully stuck with me all these years, even though the “what ifs” have often crept into both of our minds at times.

We later visited Monument Valley with the family in 1993

Family visiting Abraham Lincoln home in Springfield, IL in the late 1990s

As I look back today, I honestly believe that following the path we chose has enabled us to have a life rich in experiences. We have never had the riches that many lawyers enjoy, but I think we provided our children opportunities and memories that few American children, especially those born in the 1980s, ever got to experience.

By 1987, we had the opportunity to live and work in Japan. Our children went to Japanese public schools, got to be in numerous TV commercials, were in local TV shows, learned a new language and culture and all that came with that.   They were enlightened with a mindset of diversity and global thinking.  And I am grateful for that.

The family in Oita Prefecture in Japan in 1989, visiting with Governor Morihiko Hiramatsu, who I worked for.

The family visiting the Usa Shrine, one of Japan’s famous Shinto Shrines.

My Dad visited us in Japan in 1991 and we went to Kyoto, where we visited the Kinkaku-ji (The Gold Pavilion)

Julianne and David, visiting the old Tulum ruins in Mexico as part of a cruise.

At the age of 20, I don’t think Julianne would have believed anyone if she were told she would live in Japan for four and a half years and have the opportunity to visit places in Canada and Mexico while also traveling to most of the 50 United States, including Hawaii and Alaska.  But, that we did.  We enjoyed many opportunities to travel together and continue to do so to this day.

Japan was quite the culture shock for Julianne initially.  The weather was different, the people were different, the language was strange and many of the foods she was offered were a bit more than unique.  But, like our children, she learned to love the land and the culture, became engaged and conversant in Japanese and really found great pleasure in the variety of unique dishes in Japanese cuisine, as well as the Japanese take on other ethnic foods.  To this day, all of us enjoy the variety of foods from all over the world.

Julianne enjoys some real ramen with Marissa and Chelsea at a small Mom and Pop ramen shop in Japan in  June 1988

We still enjoy good food. Here we visited Koreana, a local Korean restaurant with my cousin Lew and his daughter.

Visiting the Mystic Pizza shop in Mystic, Connecticut

Over the past 15 years or so, we have traveled all over the United States.  At one time, we had Amaree living in Montana and then they moved to Port Orchard, Washington.  Seth got his first job out of college and lived just north of Cincinnati, but job changes eventually took him and his family to Connecticut and later to Houston.  This meant opportunities to travel for visits.  These became long trips that afforded us the opportunity to see many new places.

Then, in 2017, we had a giant family reunion that began in Kentucky and eventually took most of us as far east as central New York.

Watching the grandkids on the beach at Old Orchard Beach in Maine.

Visiting the Field Museum in Chicago with family

Julianne and I at the Corn Palace in Mitchell, South Dakota

Travel in Virginia

Visiting the Washington Monument in Washington D.C.

We were able to check out glaciers in Glacier Bay National Park in Alaska

With family in West Virginia

Julianne on a canoe trip with Chelsea and her family on the Little Miami River in Ohio

On a visit to Washington, we got to see Mt. Rainier National Park

Chelsea and Julianne at Letchworth State Park in Castille, New York

Visiting Antique Archaeology, famous for the TV show American Pickers in Le Claire, Iowa

Julianne having fun on the beach with grandchildren in Hilton Head, South Carolina

Enjoying the grandeur of Glacier National Park in Montana

Visiting Pittsburgh on a recent trip to visit her sister

Travel runs in our veins.  Julianne may not like the long road trips that I enjoy (as do many of my children and grandchildren), but she still loves to travel.  Annually she has a sibling trip to San Diego where she spends her time in a family time share on the Pacific coast.  And now that her sister Laura is closer, we make occasional trips to Pennsylvania or meet Laura and her family in Ohio or West Virginia.

I am grateful that we have had so many adventures and memories.  I hope for even more to come.

Enjoying the beach in San Diego with her sisters Maren, Kathy and Laura

Do you like travel? Are you aware that I currently have two books about offbeat and quirky places?  You can use these to take on your road trips. You can see both of my books at http://amzn.to/2ks6fQZ. Working on Book 3, coming in late Spring 2019!!

49 to 40: The Hiker

In my previous post I wrote about Julianne the biker.  She loves being outdoors and enjoying nature.  Biking is an activity I can easily do with her.  But, in recent years, due to knee issues, taking nice nature hikes with Julianne is a bit more difficult.  But that doesn’t stop her as she will go with daughters, grandchildren and often even solo on hikes. Where possible, when the hikes are “easy” (meaning not too many hills, etc.), I try to join her.  But, she is happy when she is out there, even on her own.

Hiking is something that we have done throughout our marriage.  I was never brought up in the camping tradition, and so I have not been a very good camper.  But, hiking was something I did with my dad and Julianne also did a lot of hiking.  As our children grew, we would take them on hikes.

Julianne and David with first daughter Amaree on a winter hike near the San Francisco Peaks, Flagstaff, AZ 1980

After we arrived in Japan in the late 1980s, we were afforded the opportunity to take many hikes.  There are many antiquities, old statues and beautiful nature hikes in Japan.  We took advantage of these.

Julianne and David with children on a hike to the Usuki Magaibutsu in Oita Prefecture, Japan 1988

We continued on hikes into the 1990s.  After Amaree was married, we all went to Montana and did a few fun hikes there. We enjoyed seeking out a nice waterfall with children and grandchildren.

David and Julianne with Grandson Kade at a waterfall in Montana

David and Julianne hiked to a waterfall near Juneau, Alaska

Of course, the hiking has continued, even as recently as May 2019.  Here are more shots of Julianne on hikes…enjoying nature, time with children and grandchildren and the great outdoors.

Julianne getting ready to hike the Double Arch Trail in Red River Gorge.

Hiking with grandkids in Watkins Glen, NY

Hiking in West Virginia with a view of the New River Gorge Bridge in the background.

Hiking a trail with granddaughter Autumn

A small hike in Glacier National Park in 2005 with son Seth and a friend of Amaree’s

Hiking with the Noe grandkids in Kentucky

Julianne loves hiking in the Red River Gorge in Kentucky

Julianne and David on a short hike at Letchworth State Park in New York

Julianne in her element hiking lovely trails

 

 

50 to 40: The Biker

Throughout most of our 40 years of marriage, we have not had bicycles.  However, when we went to Japan in the late 1980s, much of our local travel was on bikes.  We lived along the Oita River and it had a wonderful bike trail. We would ride to go shopping, take the children on rides, etc.  We had lots of fun doing that.

Fast forward to the 2000s and we finally got a bike for Julianne. This became an instant passion for her.  I would drive her to local trails in Lexington, especially the Legacy Trail, drop her off on one end and pick her up at the other end.  She loved her bike rides.  I enjoyed taking her, but also longing to ride.  But, alas, I felt I was too big to find a bike that could handle me.

Legacy Trail entrance in Lexington, KY

Julianne loves her bike

Always on the bike

We soon determined to venture out and find other places to bike.  Julianne discovered the Rails-to-Trails Conservancy in her research and all of a sudden a whole new world of adventure opened up for both of us.  Initially, I would drive her to a Rails-to-Trails bike path, drop her off and then pick her up 10-20 miles later.  In the meantime, I would go exploring.  We took biking trips together to numerous places in Ohio, West Virginia, Indiana, Virginia, Tennessee and Pennsylvania.  Soon Julianne’s sister Laura was getting in on the trips. As a matter of fact, as I write this, Julianne and Laura are up in Ohio riding on the Hockhocking Adena Bikeway near Athens, Ohio.

Riding with her sister Laura at the North Bend trail in West Virginia

Riding the trails together with my biker wife

Though I enjoyed taking Julianne on these road trips and doing my own exploring, I so longed to join her on these biking adventures.  As a high schooler in Montana, I rode daily and loved it.  So, as my 60th birthday rolled around in 2016, unbeknownst to me, my children had contacted many of my high school friends who passed a plate around and got donations for a bike for me.  By 2016 the Specialized Bike company had developed the Roll Bike which has a rugged construction, a larger saddle (to handle big bottoms like mine!) and disc brakes.  The 26 speed bike became my birthday gift and I was soon able to join Julianne on many of her bike rides.

Picking up my new bike on October 14, 2016

Julianne riding with her sister Laura, niece Emma and daughter Marissa on the Virginia Creeper Trail near Damascus, Virginia

So, quite often this is something that we now do together.  I have been blessed to join her on bike rides along the Little Miami River Scenic Trail in central Ohio, the amazingly beautiful Virginia Creeper Trail in Damascus, Virginia and others.

Julianne and Marissa often ride the Legacy Trail in Lexington together

Julianne and Marissa riding with the kids on the Little Miami Trail near Xenia, Ohio

On some trips our daughter Marissa and her children join us.  These rails-to-trails bike paths are mostly flat with only slight hills, making the trips easy for young children as well.

Julianne, Marissa and Laura riding at a tunnel on the Montour Bike Trail near Canonsburg, Pennsylvania

Julianne, Laura, Marissa and Emma getting ready for the 10 mile downhill ride on the Virginia Creeper

For Julianne, spring means bike time.  Warm enough to ride. We are already discussing future trips to more diverse bike paths.  One of the hoped for trips is the High Trestle Trail in Iowa, a 25 mile adventure that crosses over a half-mile bridge that spans 13 stories high over a gorge.  And recently, the Rails-to-Trails Conservancy has announced the Great American Rail Trail, which will traverse 12 states and cover over 3700 miles from Washington DC to Seattle, Washington.

The biking gang somewhere on the Virginia Creeper Trail. My first REAL bike ride.

Julianne at the Montour Trail in Pennsylvania

Biking is in Julianne’s blood and I am thankful to have this unique activity to share with her, even though I may not always be to ride the distances she does.

I hope we will have many more biking adventures in the months to come.

52 to 40: My Wife is a Superhero

As many of you know, I work in the Superhero business. I know superheros.  And Julianne has proven time and again that she is a superhero. In fact, sometimes she is Captain Marvel. Other times she is Wonder Woman. All times she is Supergirl.

Though I have a number of examples from our 40 years together, perhaps the greatest superhero story took place in the summer of 1987.
I had been working on my PhD at Arizona State University (which I never completed) and an amazing opportunity came before us. The Japanese Government began an “internationalization” program called the Japan Exchange and Teaching Program (JET Program). They had two courses…one as an Assistant English Teacher (AET) and the other as a Coordinator for International Relations (CIR). I applied for the CIR position and was accepted and sent down to Oita Prefecture to work under Governor Morihiko Hiramatsu.

Here I am working as an interpreter with Governor Hiramatsu on the right and then British Foreign Minister Sir Geoffrey Howe on the left

Though that in itself offers many stories, there is the backstory that I want to tell here.
In July 1987 I headed to Japan for Orientations and training, etc. I wasn’t coming back due to my aggressive schedule with the JET Program. That left Julianne alone with our four young children and the arduous task of packing and prepping to leave for a faraway and strange country with an open-ended return timeline. She would follow me to Japan in late August.

The family in Japan in 1987

As if all of the packing wasn’t superhuman enough, she still had to travel to Japan with four children, all aged seven and under, for a nearly 18 hour trip, through Seoul, Korea and then to Fukuoka, Japan.  Unfortunately, her flight got delayed and arrived late into Seoul.  Tired and most likely frazzled, she was shuttled to a hotel in downtown Seoul Korea where she had to spend the night and then get up very early to catch the next flight out to Japan.

Julianne is a Wonder Woman!

Those were the days before cell phones, online flight tracking, etc. And, she was also strapped with the language barriers.  It was a real challenge for her, but Wonder Woman that she was, she made it to Japan, learned the language, handled the kids school things (they went to regular old Japanese public school) and ultimately became very adapted to the Japanese lifestyle and food.
There are so many other Superhero stories to tell.  Perhaps in another post.